She’s got OCD – it keeps her safe.
The world will end if the tendli is cut round, not straight.
OCD – it gives her control,
There’s so many rules – no one could take over her role.
She’s struggling these days because there’s no maid,
It’s hard for her to find comfort on this bed she has made.
And all that excessive hand-washing – it’s now our new way,
No longer OCD – we call it COVID SAFE!
Image by jacqueline macou from Pixabay
Sometimes the rules about the way homes have to be run, and the way housework is done can get fixed and rigid. And families can think there’s no other way, even when this makes life difficult.
It’s similar often, to the disruption that time consuming compulsive behaviours of OCD, like excessive hand washing for example, cause in the lives of people suffering with this illness.
PS : Tendli is an Indian vegetable – I think it’s Ivy Gourd in English.
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My greatest friend in times of need,
I talk to you, say what I please.
You help me out when times get tough,
You listen – never say you’ve had enough. Continue reading My Greatest Friend In Times Of Need
It’s so lovely downstairs with no one there,
The blissful silence and the hot summer air.
A once a week visit to the grocery shop,
It’s going to feel real strange when all of this stops. Continue reading Lockdown Living
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To be a better wife,
I need a husband who’s here.
Here, helping at home with the chores,
Sharing the work so that I can have more,
Giving me time to relax just by being there. Continue reading To Be A Better Wife, Indian Lockdown Song Lyrics
Lookin’ heavy but feeling light,
A spring in her step because she feels alright.
More on her middle and less junk on her face,
It drives many women crazy, this acceptance of age.
That pursuit of youth, it’s a really huge business,
Keeps the doctors working – fills hospitals and clinics.
But chemical free is HER way, and she feels
It will keep her away from autoimmune disease.
2016 was a good year
It’s the year I decided to go chemical free with home and personal care products, after I was diagnosed with an inflamed thyroid and treated with steroids for a few months, until my tests went back to normal.
I made this decision after I read The Thyroid Cure by Michelle Corey. Continue reading Keep Her Away From Autoimmune Disease
When you’re stuck in the home, and it’s not your turf,
And all you need is a quiet place so you can log on to work.
When things are done someone else’s way,
And you feel that you don’t have any say. Continue reading How To Have Things Done YOUR Way At Home
She’s new to the building and here’s what they say,
She has a career, and is out at work all day.
Comes home late from the office, is NEVER around,
To chat with the women, when they all gather down. Continue reading Microwave Madam
It has to be a full circle to show you your face,
A mirror that reveals that hidden, dark place.
The good that rings true, plus the faults that you hide,
Life will take you on it’s roller coaster ride.
It has to be a full circle because you have to pay,
The piper you called out in your hour of disgrace. Continue reading A Full Circle
For those of you who don’t live here, a ‘COPY’ is a notebook, usually an exercise book used for school homework. Now coffee, is just coffee, but is also pronounced ‘COPHEE’ like copy, but with an ‘h’ sound added to it, because in many Indian languages an f vowel is pronounced ph. This can cause much confusion!
This post will help you get familiar with commonly used terms when you go shopping for clothes here in Navi Mumbai (and in many other parts of India), so that you are able to find what you want without too much difficulty.
Continue reading A Guide To Help You Shop
A ‘Found’ Essay
I decided to use ‘found’ lines from my own poems, using techniques for writing found poetry. More on this in my post Learning to write ‘Found’ Poetry
Reading a little bit of ‘Why Mummy Drinks’ by Gill Sims made me want to try my hand at a different style of writing. Light hearted, but with a message.
Continue reading If I was God – a ‘Found’ essay
The sins of the mother, come down to her son,
But how long should we blame her for what he’s become?
One year of marriage – a journey together,
That year during which we learn more about each other.
Two years to bend, and to meet in the middle,
Three to feel the need to forge new ideas and new traditions.
Continue reading 5 Years A Victim
I had a really lovely time at a workshop on ‘Found’ Poetry this December. The workshop was conducted by Ankita Shah, co-founder of The Poetry Club, at G5A, Mumbai.
We worked on two different kinds of found poetry – Blackout Poetry and Cento Poetry.
It was a lot of fun! Interesting to see how different the poems of each participant were.
The workshop started with an explanation on found poetry, and how we were to work on our poems. And then, we got started with our assignments.
Here’s the poems I wrote at the workshop, with a brief note on each exercise. Continue reading Learning to write ‘Found’ Poetry
A poem about forgiveness and a skill that is needed to form long-lasting relationships amid human failings.
Forgive and forget, that’s what they say,
So you can be a fool for them on yet another day. Continue reading Teach them
If there’s too much to clean, just throw it all out,
When you have cabin fever, just get out of the house!
Cook simple and easy everyday,
You can go out for something different once in a way.
Continue reading How to be a relaxed housekeeper
Alone but not lonely, ‘cos I’m with myself,
Just as happy as when I meet up with someone else.
With paper and pen, and some words – not the best,
Words sometimes unclear or imperfect – the way I talk to my friends.
But blogging is different – I need to take care,
Continue reading From a Blogger
This is my story and the story of many young couples today. It’s about a journey to work-life balance.
9 to 5 equals 7 to 7,
On days that are busy, they’re home after eleven.
Both of them work and their schedule’s real tight,
It’s what they expected, but this busy isn’t right. Continue reading This busy
Lets not be like the blind man who has met with the elephant,
Who knows just one part but thinks the knowledge of others is irrelevant.
Lets find comfort in difference, and give everyone a voice,
Lets not be offended when their way is not our choice. Continue reading Lets Accept That We Don’t See
Stand up and fight for what is right,
With words imperfect, but a heart that’s alright.
Be the flame that sheds light – alive and strong,
When society wants a display of money, or when you see something wrong. Continue reading Stand up and fight for what is right
She’s there for a reason and her reason is money.
If you’re not doing well she won’t find your jokes funny!
She can’t understand why you treat her so well,
When here purse is empty and her budget’s shot to hell.
Continue reading She’s there for a reason
Can we stop and just listen to what they say?
‘Cos the wheel will keep turning until every dog has it’s day.
Can we withhold judgement even when we don’t agree?
Even when their ideas make us want to shout and scream? Continue reading Can we stop and just listen?