This post is a response to a really interesting post by Vignesh S Raj Women aren’t special. I enjoyed reading it and I encourage you to read it. Vignesh S Raj makes many important points that are worthy of thought and conversations, on the way we shape our roles within the family.
My new normal after a surgical menopause, and what helped me rebuild my life and find a new normal.
The biggest struggle for many women making this journey, is that those who have been through it aren’t willing to talk. Let’s break this cycle of silence and start conversations, so that women know there’s hope.
Please read Tales Our Housework Tell Part 1 of 2 for an introduction to this post. This second part of the post is a very rough approximation of one aspect of home management in our home. It ignores many aspects that I found difficult to measure. More details on the information in this post, inContinue reading “Tales Our Housework Tell Part 2 of 2”
I think it’s important to talk about housework and the skill of home management, because it occupies such an important part of the time, and the lives of many. And also because it’s a hidden, secret place to those who have never done it. Often unappreciated or looked down on, by a materialistic society thatContinue reading “Tales Our Housework Tell Part 1 of 2”
I haven’t watched a Hindi movie years. Actually I found them depressing as a child. Romantic singing and running around trees accompanied by squeaky violins and high-pitched female vocals just wasn’t my thing. I personally prefer lower pitched or more full-bodied vocal technique – I find this more relaxing to listen to and it oftenContinue reading “Movie Review ‘Gully Boy’”
If I was God, I would want to make sure women outlived the men in their family. Not all, but some at least. Genetics, and hormones do this for us, most of the time. But I would want this because I have seen the Indian man. You know, the Indian man who can’t findContinue reading “If I was God – a ‘Found’ essay”
I loved you so I never said no. I wanted you to have order in your life so I cleaned up after you. Now, you’re growing up and I can’t face the tantrums. You don’t have the ability to take the knocks that life will give you and you don’t have the independence you need toContinue reading “I loved you”
I chose you and I lost my ability to see. I couldn’t see your failings, though I was aware of them before. It’s not that I was blind, but that I didn’t want to see. Deep down inside, I think accepting your flaws was a reflection on me. Because you were MY choice. I choseContinue reading “My choice”
I write this based on my experiences as a piano teacher years ago, and success working with piano students and families that were over-scheduled. This is a child who never has a week-day at home after school. Who doesn’t get enough age appropriate unstructured play time that is necessary for growth and development. And whoContinue reading “Coping with the overscheduled child in piano class”
She was the one you could go to… When you wanted to pick a fight with your neighbour without actually starting it yourself. A few well aimed barbs whispered in her ear, and then you just had to wait ten minutes. That’s the time it took for your message to be delivered. She always knewContinue reading “The Newspaper.. an ode to a lost friend”
My husband is in a state of shock – I did not know I could have this effect on him. It all started a couple of days ago, when I noticed an image on his computer screen. A picture of this guy Luke. I saw it and immediately asked my husband if it was LukeContinue reading “So…who IS Luke Skywalker?”
I get it! That you have important matters to talk about so you drive slowly, Focused on your cellphone conversation. And I get it that you just don’t care That you’re slowing everyone down The vehicles behind you are switching lanes at the last minute, The drivers frustrated that they’re stuck driving at a crawlContinue reading “I get it!”
You no longer feel like you’re just out of college. You are 20 kgs heavier than when you were 20 but you feel very slim. You will never have time to do all that you have to or want to. You are wise and you have given up trying – there’s a long long ‘To-do’Continue reading “You Know You’re 40 When”