A story of change based on observing young women break the cycle of behaviour that pushes them down.
To the wonderful women who treat all equally within the family. This is not your story, but it is the story of enough women. A story that needs to be told.
She’s got OCD – it keeps her safe. The world will end if the tendli is cut round, not straight. OCD – it gives her control, There’s so many rules – no one could take over her role. She’s struggling these days because there’s no maid, It’s hard for her to find comfort on thisContinue reading “OCD Or Covid Safe?”
To be a better wife, I need a husband who’s here. Here, helping at home with the chores, Sharing the work so that I can have more, Giving me time to relax just by being there. There, chopping the veggies at night, Washing the dishes that lie in the sink, Giving me time to sitContinue reading “To Be A Better Wife, Indian Lockdown Song Lyrics”
My husband and I have lived without a maid often, mostly because I would rather that, than have a maid who works badly. And because when I have a good maid, I happily give her long leave whenever she needs it. I’d rather have one person work for me permanently, than keep switching maids eachContinue reading “8 Tips To Help You Live Comfortably Without A Maid”
She’s new to the building and here’s what they say she has a career, and is out at work all day. Comes home late from the office, is NEVER around to chat with the women, when they all gather down. She dresses different from the stay-at-home wives they think it would be exciting to haveContinue reading “Microwave Madam”
The sins of the mother, come down to her son, But how long should we blame her for what he’s become? One year of marriage – a journey together, That year during which we learn more about each other. Two years to bend, and to meet in the middle, Three to feel the need toContinue reading “5 Years A Victim”
She’s a wonderful woman – that’s all I can say, Let’s us make our mistakes and find our own way. No protests when we make our housework easy, With routines and ideas that would drive her crazy. She teaches us her wisdom when we’re sinking or stuck, And we bring some change when she’s gottenContinue reading “A Wonderful Woman”
We’re the women who dress up to visit our mothers. We live by our own standards, don’t paint us with your colour. Blow dry our hair and put on our best dress, No, it’s not a night out to paint the town red! We take less care when we go out with our men,Continue reading “Paint The Town RED”
She’s like the bottom of the pot, where the spoon scrapes. When there’s less inside, to put on our plates. The bottom of the barrel that bears the pressure, When it’s filled to the brim and there’s no ease or leisure. The support for the busy of everyone else, And when she’s not well,Continue reading “She’s the bottom of the barrel”
Can we call out that woman – the one who hates, Who won’t support her sister until it’s too late. Who gives support to the man who does women harm, Even though she knows he’s the one in the wrong. What is within her, what’s behind her thinking? Is it her frustration because she’s hadContinue reading “Can we call out the woman who is filled with hate?”
Do you want children so quick, or is it the pressure? From family and friends who really should know better. Who should let you do things at your own pace, Take a little time so you have more savings and space. Space in your schedule to spend time with your child, And savings, so oneContinue reading “Do you want children so quick?”
It used to be Baby, ‘cos they saw I was young, The one they looked after when her parents weren’t around. Then, it was Didi – the elder sister, A young adult woman without a ‘Mister’. But 2 years of marriage and that was all gone, Then I became Bhabhi, their sister-in-law! Now things have changedContinue reading “The stages of my life”
Do women deserve a weekly off or do they need to pay, For the sins of their husbands mother, On that seventh day? The mother who did what she thought was right, Who never took a break. Who was an obedient daughter-in-law, who accepted without a fight. ‘Cos she learned from her own mother,Continue reading “The Sins Of Their Father’s Mother”
“Just have a baby, put your child in a creche, and continue with what you were doing before you had a baby. That’s what I did…” That’s what a friend said to me in an effort to pressure me into having a baby! I just stared at her in total shock. I could see howContinue reading ““Children don’t need time””