This post is a response to a really interesting post by Vignesh S Raj Women aren’t special. I enjoyed reading it and I encourage you to read it. Vignesh S Raj makes many important points that are worthy of thought and conversations, on the way we shape our roles within the family.
This is a lockdown poem, and a take off on a family phrase ‘seen to.’ It’s a phrase in my husbands family that, since marriage is also my family. As in “She can’t go out because she has to ‘see to’ her husband” meaning – do the housework and serve him his food.
I would enjoy cooking if …
A story of change based on observing young women break the cycle of behaviour that pushes them down.
To the wonderful women who treat all equally within the family. This is not your story, but it is the story of enough women. A story that needs to be told.
My new normal after a surgical menopause, and what helped me rebuild my life and find a new normal.
The biggest struggle for many women making this journey, is that those who have been through it aren’t willing to talk. Let’s break this cycle of silence and start conversations, so that women know there’s hope.
Every human being, irrespective of the role he or she has within the family, has the right to rest. I think we can all, no matter where we come from in our ways of thinking, agree on this. Everyone within the family deserves, and should have the right to a weekly off, sick leave andContinue reading “Equality – Rest is a Right”
Don’t go here don’t go there. Don’t stay out late tie up your hair. Don’t wear that dress you look too old and the colors don’t suit you they’re bright and too bold. Don’t put your career before your chores do what we did and don’t want more. Don’t, because it makes us yearn andContinue reading “Don’t”
Please read Tales Our Housework Tell Part 1 of 2 for an introduction to this post. This second part of the post is a very rough approximation of one aspect of home management in our home. It ignores many aspects that I found difficult to measure. More details on the information in this post, inContinue reading “Tales Our Housework Tell Part 2 of 2”
I think it’s important to talk about housework and the skill of home management, because it occupies such an important part of the time, and the lives of many. And also because it’s a hidden, secret place to those who have never done it. Often unappreciated or looked down on, by a materialistic society thatContinue reading “Tales Our Housework Tell Part 1 of 2”
I don’t wanna be the woman behind the man,let my dreams flow down the sink as I wash the pots and pans.I don’t wanna be the woman who’s burning up inside,and sees dirt in the smile of her sisters eyes. Don’t wanna be the price that you paywhen we’re old, and I’m bitter because IContinue reading “Wanna”
The sins of the mother, come down to her son, But how long should we blame her for what he’s become? One year of marriage – a journey together, That year during which we learn more about each other. Two years to bend, and to meet in the middle, Three to feel the need toContinue reading “5 Years A Victim”
Men-Oh-Pause, give your wives a break,
Don’t get up and leave them to wash up the plates.
They’re on their feet before every meal,
Cooking and washing and keeping the home clean.