This post is a response to a really interesting post by Vignesh S Raj Women aren’t special. I enjoyed reading it and I encourage you to read it. Vignesh S Raj makes many important points that are worthy of thought and conversations, on the way we shape our roles within the family.
This is a lockdown poem, and a take off on a family phrase ‘seen to.’ It’s a phrase in my husbands family that, since marriage is also my family. As in “She can’t go out because she has to ‘see to’ her husband” meaning – do the housework and serve him his food.
It was a beast born of hate and filled with pride …
I would enjoy cooking if …
Will you accept your role and the part that you playedall those years that you looked awaypretended that all was well and things were okayeven though you knew she lived with fear each night and day? She’s moved on now. Left and built a lifebut her children remember your part in those times of strife.TheContinue reading “Unbroken”
Freedom is a 3-way street
Would you dance with the devil if he paid your bill?
Her glass almost empty still has something there
She’s not like the songbird who sings out her song
A story of change based on observing young women break the cycle of behaviour that pushes them down.
To the wonderful women who treat all equally within the family. This is not your story, but it is the story of enough women. A story that needs to be told.
Where do you start when there are over 2,000 self help books about #menopause? Here are some of my favourites including useful tips and personal experiences to help you navigate your menopause. Self Help Books About Menopause — Tea & Cake For The Soul A lot of interesting books in the link above. Please use itContinue reading “Reblog: Self Help Books About Menopause — Tea & Cake For The Soul”
My new normal after a surgical menopause, and what helped me rebuild my life and find a new normal.
The biggest struggle for many women making this journey, is that those who have been through it aren’t willing to talk. Let’s break this cycle of silence and start conversations, so that women know there’s hope.
Every human being, irrespective of the role he or she has within the family, has the right to rest. I think we can all, no matter where we come from in our ways of thinking, agree on this. Everyone within the family deserves, and should have the right to a weekly off, sick leave andContinue reading “Equality – Rest is a Right”
Crazy cat is in the building visiting anyone who’s willing to fuss or feed him or let him sit on their living room floor for just a bit. Evening sees him in full form playing dead downstairs I think it’s his idea of fun! He’s really looking for a home I wish someone would keepContinue reading “Crazy Cat”
There used to be a silence an aloneness that went away. I’d look back in longing at those wonderful days. Then it was messaging and junk mail that clogged the mind with a sense of ‘too busy’ even when there was enough time. So it was unsubscribe and delete and let’s talk on the phoneContinue reading “Silence”
All alone without it’s mate it got left out and it was too late. One washed and hanging on the line the other still grubby but doing fine. Separate, but the next wash will get them together they keep me warm in cold, dry weather. A riddle. This is an easy one 🙂 Because togethernessContinue reading “Alone”
100% – that’s all the work to be done home management can be fulfilling and fun! But it’s 10% more ‘cos they won’t put things away don’t have assigned chores, but still have their say. Add 10% for customs and traditions that are rigid No longer needed but stay and deprive all in the familyContinue reading “100% – The Work Of A Home Manager”
I shall put on my best dress and stay at home we’ll have our family gatherings over the phone. If we need to go out, we’ll visit the shop pick up some veggies and get a short walk. It’s two zero twenty – time to be with ourselves covid-safe social distancing – let’s make sureContinue reading “This Diwali”
Don’t go here don’t go there. Don’t stay out late tie up your hair. Don’t wear that dress you look too old and the colors don’t suit you they’re bright and too bold. Don’t put your career before your chores do what we did and don’t want more. Don’t, because it makes us yearn andContinue reading “Don’t”