To be a better wife,
I need a husband who’s here.
Here, helping at home with the chores,
Sharing the work so that I can have more,
Giving me time to relax just by being there.
There, chopping the veggies at night,
Washing the dishes that lie in the sink,
Giving me time to sit with my cup of chai.
He’s needed everywhere,
Shopping lists and laundry duty, tidying up.
Learning that his wife can’t cope, she’s doing enough.
Love makes him care that I rest,
He’s sharing the housework, I feel really blessed,
There’s hope in my eyes as I finally realise,
He will be there, and everywhere,
Here, there and everywhere.
I’ve written ‘To Be A Better Wife’ to the tune of ‘Here There and Everywhere’, a song composed and written by the Beatles. I’m publishing the lyrics here, as they aren’t very clear in the video I recorded on my cellphone.
I do not claim any copyright or ownership of Here, There and Everywhere – this rests with the owners of this music. Permissions in my blog copyright notice cover my writing in this post only, to the extent that is permitted by laws on copyright relating to writing parody.
The video was a fun family lockdown activity and I recorded it in hope that it promotes social change and for no other purpose.
2020 has been a HUGE change and also a rude shock for many Indian families used to having maids. Some have adapted and many are still struggling as cultural values, rigid gender roles and habits formed by always having maids to help, create barriers to every family member doing their share of chores.
Some families are adapting. Children, learning to tidy their own stuff. Men, taking on chores as they see their wives struggle without any help. Women balancing their careers with home management, looking after children and supervising online education. With caring for elderly family members and supervising 24/7 care at home for those that are really ill. Old-age homes are not the norm here. And anyway, families often prefer to care for their elderly themselves.
Yes, some are adapting.
And some aren’t.