Do you want children so quick, or is it the pressure?
From family and friends who really should know better.
Who should let you do things at your own pace,
Take a little time so you have more savings and space.
Space in your schedule to spend time with your child,
And savings, so one of you can be home for a while.
‘Cos the early years are so important,
To the quality of your child’s education and emotional development.
You’ll have probably had a big fat Indian wedding,
Started your marriage with little or no savings.
And much as you’d like it, it just wouldn’t work,
If one of you worked part-time during your child’s early years.
I ask you to think, not to give in to pressure,
From family, friends, and neighbours who really should know better.
Being a parent takes time spent with sense, love and patience,
And a lack of time with your child often isn’t the best situation.
Should you have children quickly, or should you wait?
Take more time, settle down. Plan, save and make space.
Space in your schedule to be home with your young child,
Have faith that what’s meant will be given to you when it’s time.
I urge you to think, and wait till you’re sure,
Plan to be a parent your child will know.
‘Cos a child is a gift and needs love and care,
Don’t miss out on that because you’re never there.
Do you regret having that big fat wedding?
Would the money have helped you out of this situation?
Or do you not want children, but can’t take the pressure?
From family, neighbours and friends who really should know better.
Do you feel children are a choice that you don’t want to make,
But have done so to get everyone off your case?
A post about a much ignored aspect of family planning.
The pressure to have children is huge for many young couples and it can be quite intrusive. And really hurtful to couples who have difficulty conceiving.
I wrote about my experience with the pressure in ‘Children don’t need time.’
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