A space where we both have our say

I want to do for you as you did for your mother,

But we both want to do it our way.

With love and respect for each other,

And space where we both have our say.

You did without reservation,

Without care for yourself – space to grow.

It was the way for some of your generation,

And I watched you struggle much harder, when it was time to let go.

It’s hard if we let go of hobbies,

And forget the feel of space.

To live in a home that’s more empty,

And to have to learn to find our new ‘place’.

I don’t want to face that situation,

And you don’t want that for me.

So we’re working on re-organisation,

To stay separate when we’re close, and be a family.

We’re learning to set boundaries,

Be a new kind of family.

That lets go of old traditions and ways,

That just don’t go with the life of today.

We’re on this journey together,

You and me, for the time that we get.

We’re in this together, it won’t be forever,

So we better make space, plan ahead.

I need to be there for you like you were for your mother,

But we both want to do it our way.

With love and respect for each other,

And space, where we both have our say.