The world will not end if we put up our feet,
For 20 minutes each day.
The world will not end if we eat left overs,
More than once in a way.
The world will not end if we go meet our friends,
And we’re not there to serve you your lunch.
It’s these breaks we take and the time we make,
That help us get time before it’s too late.
We don’t get house help that works independently,
Or good carer’s when someone is ill.
We always need to keep an eye,
And there’s never a day that passes by,
When we can sit and take time with our cup of chai.
We’d like to blame you but you’re not the problem,
The problems lies within.
It’s a fight with ourselves, to let go and accept,
That we’re not . . . Wonderwoman.
An idea and an attitude that brings tremendous ease to the daily life of a homemaker.
The words ‘we’re not there to serve you your lunch‘ is a reference to the way patriarchy has made many internalize serving men food and water as a way of showing love. There are families that are able to make their peace with these ideas, and make patriarchy work for them, by having routines and roles that provide time for rest. Or more commonly, house help to bring ease.
There are those that fail to do this effectively.
And then there’s the 2020 lockdown and social isolation that has taken away support systems and has burdened the home manager. And she’s shouting out loud.